Tag: life is short

Dear Twenty-Something Girl,

Dear Twenty-Something Girl,

Just about a month ago I said good-bye to my twenties. Milestones always make me nostalgic, and force me to reflect on where I’ve been, and where God has brought me. So far, thirty has been pretty much typical of life; there are highs and lows and everything in between. As I’ve been reflecting I keep thinking about a few things I learned that I wish I would have known along the way, nothing too profound, just a few simple truths.

  1. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
    There were so many times that I made big things out of tiny things; things with friends, things with family, things with guys, all the things. Looking back, so many of them didn’t matter at all, they weren’t worth my energy, weren’t worth being sad about; the people matter, the drama doesn’t.
  2. Look up more than you look down.
    Things get rough. Sometimes they really suck. My twenties were harder than I could have ever imagined ten years ago, but the truth is, the best things in my life came out of these past ten years too. Wherever you start and end your twenties, know you’ll be a stronger person than you began, and the key is to always look up. Even on the darkest days we have something to be thankful for, always.
  3. Trust your gut.
    I doubted myself more times than I should have. Being a mom has forced me to learn this in a whole new way. I know that I know my kids, and 9 times out of 10 I really do know in my gut what is going to be best for them. But the truth is my gut was just as good back then as it is now. When you feel torn, trust yourself, you know.

They all ended up being kitschy, cliche phrases, but there’s a lot of truth to each of them. I wish I would have believed them more for the past ten years, and I pray that I practice them more in the next ten years. Twenty-something or not, I think these things apply to all of us.

Keep pressing on, you’re doing a phenomenal job!
xo,
Jac

Stripes

Man, I feel like our life has been nonstop lately. We always know September and October are full, but seriously, I feel like we just ran a marathon for two months straight. I think our kids became completely different people over the course of it all. Each day practically I wake up and feel like they’ve developed some new trait, or something new that they’re doing, or interested in. As they say, the days can feel long, but the years truly are so short.
Lately each morning when they wake up, they come to our bed, and Hudson will ask, “do you want to see how tall I grew while I was sleeping?” After our encouragement and affirmation, he’ll stand up as tall as he can and show us, quickly joining him, Sofia will stand up to show us, and add flexing her muscles to show us how strong she is. I’ll reply with “Oh my goodness!” a few times, and it only makes them stand taller and more proud, and I just feel like this is the life I wish I could capture every moment of. Every tiny thing they do, and say, I wish I could have it all documented. How do you balance wanting to document it, with letting yourself be present? If any of you have mastered it, please let me be your student, because I feel like I live in the middle of this conflict at all times.
I spent the last few days in this funk. There was no real reason, I was just down. I hate when I’m in that place, because I just feel like I’m wasting these precious blinks of life. I know there is much for my kids to learn by letting them see that there are the happy moments, and the harder moments; that’s real life, but I’m just always really thankful for that morning I wake up and feel back to myself. Thankful for new days, full of new mercies!

Hope you’re all having a good week!
xo,
Jac