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Dear Twenty-Something Girl,

Dear Twenty-Something Girl,

Just about a month ago I said good-bye to my twenties. Milestones always make me nostalgic, and force me to reflect on where I’ve been, and where God has brought me. So far, thirty has been pretty much typical of life; there are highs and lows and everything in between. As I’ve been reflecting I keep thinking about a few things I learned that I wish I would have known along the way, nothing too profound, just a few simple truths.

  1. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
    There were so many times that I made big things out of tiny things; things with friends, things with family, things with guys, all the things. Looking back, so many of them didn’t matter at all, they weren’t worth my energy, weren’t worth being sad about; the people matter, the drama doesn’t.
  2. Look up more than you look down.
    Things get rough. Sometimes they really suck. My twenties were harder than I could have ever imagined ten years ago, but the truth is, the best things in my life came out of these past ten years too. Wherever you start and end your twenties, know you’ll be a stronger person than you began, and the key is to always look up. Even on the darkest days we have something to be thankful for, always.
  3. Trust your gut.
    I doubted myself more times than I should have. Being a mom has forced me to learn this in a whole new way. I know that I know my kids, and 9 times out of 10 I really do know in my gut what is going to be best for them. But the truth is my gut was just as good back then as it is now. When you feel torn, trust yourself, you know.

They all ended up being kitschy, cliche phrases, but there’s a lot of truth to each of them. I wish I would have believed them more for the past ten years, and I pray that I practice them more in the next ten years. Twenty-something or not, I think these things apply to all of us.

Keep pressing on, you’re doing a phenomenal job!
xo,
Jac

Dear 85 year old self

 

IMG_5819This past weekend my sweet grandma would have been 86 years old. Over the last five months, since losing her, I’ve thought a lot about what I’ve learned from her. She was 85 years old when she went to be with Jesus, and had lived more life than I probably ever will. She lived through WWII in Italy, kissed Mussolini’s head, birthed 2 babies, fought and beat breast cancer, and was an amazing mom, grandma, and great-grandma. In the last 5 years or so her health slowly deteriorated, her body was failing but her mind was all there. If by God’s grace I’m here 60 years from now, I hope I remember these things.

Dear self,
You’re getting old, it’s ok, don’t fight it, grey hair is a crown of glory. Never stop telling your kids and grand-kids how proud of them you are, they will remember it forever. Write down your recipes, they’ll want to cook your special foods and will want to know exactly how you do it. If you need help, just ask, even though it’s hard, and you’ve been the one helping them their whole lives, they’ll enjoy helping you, let them have this joy. Call often, they’re busy, but they will cherish every time they heard your voice even if it was just for a quick hello. Tell them your stories, repeatedly, they will laugh and retell them for years to come. Save baggies of change for your great-grand-kids, when your grandkids find them in their drawer it’ll bring them more joy than those couple of dollars could ever buy. Hold their hands, as often as you can, this will be one of the things they can never get back and will miss more than they could imagine. More than anything never stop talking to them about Jesus, your passion for Him will speak volumes more than you will realize, and someday when you go to be with Him, this will be their greatest comfort.

2 Timothy 4:6-8
For I am already being poured out as a drink offering, and the time of my departure has come. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. Henceforth there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will award to me on that Day, and not only to me but also to all who have loved his appearing.”

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